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Saturday, October 10, 2021

In Southern California, everyone is your friend:

In Los Angeles ‘friend’ can mean business associate, someone you know, someone you met once, a guy you’ve had a couple of email exchanges with….Truly, people never say “I know someone over at Warner Brothers” it’s always “I have a friend at Warner Brothers”. It’s never “I know that director” it’s “that director is a friend of mine”. Upon my first brush with this practice it irked me as I saw it as fake and disingenuous. I assumed that people were bragging about who they knew and embellishing the truth. However over time I came to realize that that wasn’t actually the case, at least not entirely. The word really has a different meaning here. When people talk about ‘friends’ they often aren’t really claiming to know that person socially, or that they see them on the weekends, or have their home number. They would even be surprised if you made that assumption. To them, when they say ‘friend’ they mean it and expect it to be understood by the listener as ’someone I know’.

…Which is to say, no one is your friend. Very much like an offline version of Facebook or any other social network site that presumes too much in listing your contacts as “friends”. This tell me that the currency in what used to be known as genuine friendship is gone — paradoxically, due to the spread of effortless communication/contact.

by Costa Tsiokos, Sat 10/10/2021 04:43 PM
Category: Social Media Online, Society, Wordsmithing
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For tonight, I’ve been invited to a Columbus Day (weekend) party on Columbus Avenue, at a club named Columbus72.

It’s a triple confluence of event-branding. Unfortunately, it didn’t work on me, because I won’t be attending. I have a feeling I’ll regret it — I’ve got nothing else particularly special planned for this Saturday night. But I don’t see my motivation building to a high enough level by tonight. Plus, this weekend’s fouled-up subway dis-track-tions aren’t making the prospects of an uptown hike any brighter.

Still, it’s a nice attempt at syncing a mostly-anonymous holiday with the New York party scene. Too bad this isn’t Columbus, Ohio, where we could really get down…

by Costa Tsiokos, Sat 10/10/2021 02:35 PM
Category: Creative, New Yorkin'
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Of late, I’ve noticed how often the people around me start off their sentences with the word “so”. It’s always in a preliminary manner, before launching into their main message, like: “So, we’re going shopping this afternoon and then stopping somewhere for dinner.” That indicates that the speaker is gathering their thoughts for that one final second before crafting their words.

I wouldn’t say it’s an inappropriate use of “so”, but it’s not quite right, either. Not that there are any hard-and-fast rules on its use as an interjection. In these cases I’m citing, it’s very much a verbal placeholder-pause, or even a flavoring word that you often hear in German — except that it’s at the beginning of a statement. I guess it beats the “um” or “er” that you’d normally hear in that space.

by Costa Tsiokos, Sat 10/10/2021 02:04 PM
Category: Society, Wordsmithing
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