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Thursday, May 04, 2021

From Heather Locklear to Richie Sambora David Spade to Denise Richardson to Charlie Sheen — how do those Hollywood types swap dance partners so fast?

Turns out, contingency mating plans are ever-present, with “sandbagging” a popular ploy for keeping Mr./Ms. Plan B in reserve.

And it’s not limited to just celebs:

The same way physical sandbags are used to shore up a levee in case of a major breakdown, preventing flooding and catastrophe, the metaphorical sandbag is a future lover you have waiting in the wings to dull the pain of a bad breakup.

“When you end a relationship, it is easy to be sad and mopey, but if you have a sandbag, you fall right into something fun and exciting,” Manhattanite Eliza, 25, tells us (all subjects asked their first names only be used). “It’s new yet also familiar, since you’ve been keeping it on the back burner for a while.”

You may not actively court them or even fantasize about them. You might just keep in touch with a quick, flirty E-mail, text message or voice mail once every six months, just to make sure they still have a fleeting interest in you.

“People are so terrified of being without anyone that they are willing to create a chorus line,” says relationship expert Dr. Gilda Carle. “One of my clients had a boyfriend, but actually had a man on the side she called Plan B!”

The main lesson I’m taking from this: That opposite-sex best friend deal? A crock. You’re either at-bat or on deck.

by Costa Tsiokos, Thu 05/04/2021 11:15:07 PM
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